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Avoiding The BUzz…

On Sunday afternoons, I make it a point to avoid, at all costs, hearing the annoying voices of Boy A, Cristy F, and Jobert S on their gossip TV show, The BUTT…I mean the BUZZ. My wife will sprint near the TV set and hit MUTE on the remote to make sure I don’t hear those malevolent voices. She’s that sweet.  So, I just leave the room and let her watch all the show biz gossip and hilarious haute couture she can take lest i vomit inside my mouth.

I was just surfing the net and looking for funny videos. On YouTube, I watched this 2-year old wonder named Lily who can point the exact location of any country on her big map. This little girl  and geography whiz who barely completes sentences and mumble the sounds of words can ACCURATELY pinpoint the exact location of Zimbabwe and other obscure countries you’ve never heard of (or at least I’ve never heard of).

Her mom and dad tells her the name of the country and she points where it is on the map without even hesitating. At one point, the mom asks her where Mexico is, and she promptly corrects her mom by pronouncing it as MEHIKO!

I think she’s on the MIB (Men in Black) watchlist. I have reason to believe she is an extra terrestrial humanoid with superior intelligence. She is amazing!

I bet her milk is melamine-free. My wife and I will find out what brand of milk Lily drinks. I have to drink some too!

Thank God for the internet. I was once again rescued from the tortures of Sunday afternoon Philippine TV.


October 5, 2008 Posted by | Smart kids | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

What To Expect When You’re Expecting…in 8 months.

Our baby in my wife’s womb is 46 days old . He or she is about the size of a pea and growing fast each day that passes. I’ve been reading up on books about pregnancy. The most popular of which is the book “What To Expect When You’re Expecting”. Interesting read that book is.

I must say perspectives do change. I was never a fan of reading these types of books and left it at that. I preferred reading the funny pages, Bob Ong’s books, and (I daresay) Men’s magazines with “artistic” pictures. I guess a man’s sudden interest in these literature is brought about by necessity and excitement as well.

Hearing my wife make sounds as if she’s preparing to hurl (vomit), burp, or fart (due to first trimester symptoms) makes me more interested in an amused kind of way. Imagine that, a being the size of a small goldfish and rapidly increasing in size is growing in my wife’s tummy…and we were responsible for making it happen…with the farting, burping, and pseudo-hurling and all.

The book and all its 500+ pages say there’s more to expect. I’ll read some more. This is interesting.

January 5, 2009 Posted by | pregnancy, what to expect when you're expecting | Leave a comment

The Doghouse

Did your wife like (love) what you got her for Christmas? I hope she did.

For ages, it feels like there is a mystery that shrouds the activity of gift giving to wives. There is always an anxious uncertainty as to what husbands get for their wives for special occassions. This video illustrates my point. I hope husbands enjoy watching this… and LEARN in the process.

Watch and learn, men!

I got my wife a true pair of Cockatiels (lovebirds) in a nice cage. Good thing she liked it (gulp). Honestly. Thank God.

December 29, 2008 Posted by | Positivity | Leave a comment

Couvade Syndrome

I’m a first time father. So this is the first time my wife and I are experiencing paglilihi symptoms. I’ve always thought the concept was exclusive to Filipino culture and families. I was mistaken.

This is interesting. Read on:

Couvade Syndrome
Sympathetic Pregnancy

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By Robin Elise Weiss, LCCE, About.com

Pregnant Women painting by Steve Gribben

Dads, have you ever noticed that you were gaining weight along with your partner’s pregnancy? Do
you find yourself feel queasy at certain times of the day? Have you experienced appetite changes? Then you may be experiencing Couvade Syndrome.

Couvade comes from the french word couvee meaning “to hatch”. It has come to mean a man having a

“sympathetic pregnancy.” Yes, ladies, this means that your partner could start to vomit, gain weigh

t, and have many of the “joys” associated with pregnancy.

Generally, couvade syndrome begins in the end of the first trimester and increases in severity until the third trimester. The only known cure for couvade is — birth.

Some people have doubted the reality of couvade syndrome. These doubters say that the weight gain that the father may experience is caused by the eating habits of the mother, nerves, or other changes that pregnancy makes in one’s life. The vomiting? Of course, that is blamed on nerves, too.

What do the dads have to say about this? They don’t know what to think about vomiting, weight gain, and changes in sexual appetite. How can you tell everyone at work that you need to lie down because you have morning sickness?!? And, of course, they would stop vomiting if they could.

This is something that has been researched and found to be quite real. Some men are more susceptible to couvade than others. For instance if you and your partner have experienced infertility or if you were adopted, you could be more likely to experience couvade syndrome.

So, guys, know that you are not alone, and that you have the medical community backing you up. Eat some crackers, get out of bed slowly, drink some ginger tea and try to get a bit of rest and know that birth is right around the corner.

And don’t shove her out of the way of the toilet!

December 27, 2008 Posted by | Positivity | 1 Comment

Enjoying the munchies

I’ve probably packed on 2 pounds in 5 days. At that rate, I could really get rotund before the first trimester of my wife’s pregnancy ends. Sure, there was the noche buena dinner(s) and the dessert(s) that goes with them. Not to mention the left over meal(s) that are obligatory to consume to make sure there are no wasted food items. Also, I make sure that there is enough space in the refrigerator for new food stuffs that need refrigeration. Hence, I had to eat all the leftovers (the still good ones and the about-to-turn-bad items). I’m a dutiful husband, homeowner, and cook.

My wife, for a month now, has the munchies. It’s characteristic of pregnant women going through their first trimester. Everything and anything she craves for I have to eat, too. Of course, I need to taste them first. Then if she can’t finish them, I come to the rescue. Hence, I have the munchies, too. I can’t say I’m not enjoying it. I’m loving every minute of this.

I have 2 options:

  1. Run 3 miles a day and lose my progressively protruding gut while controlling the munchies.
  2. Keep eating till I pack on enough pounds (and get launched to the sky as a new planet) and empathize with my wife’s equally progressing tummy size.

I’ll definitely take option 1… in January 3, 2009. For now, I’ve to finish the Christmas leftovers and the coming New Year’s leftovers from media noche. Try the Sans Rival!

Life is good.

December 27, 2008 Posted by | Positivity | Leave a comment

We’re Pregnant!

After 4 weeks of enjoying:

  • Big meals motivated by bigger appetites.
  • food cravings and/or aversions.
  • Midnight/dawn snacks.
  • Unannounced pinching and biting frenzies (my wife has been feeling gigil at me. So she bites and pinches me for no apparent reason).
  • Sleepy episodes with dizzy spells.
  • Long siestas.
  • Farting/burping tournaments.
  • and a 6-day delay of her menstrual period…

… my wife and I finally decided to buy a pregnancy test kit. The instructions suggested to take the test in the morning as the amount of hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin) in the urine is high and that will help indicate if its positive or negative. We bought the test at 11 PM after a hearty snack (we still have the munchies). I asked my wife if she could take it now as I was obviously anxious. She said no.

I didn’t get a blink of sleep. She slept like a baby even if she slept a long siesta. Finally she awoke at 5 AM as she felt a strong urge to urinate. I jump to my feet and reached for the pregnancy test kit. She laughed at my excitement. After 3 minutes, she opened the bathroom door smiling from ear to ear with eyes glistening. Then she gave me a tight hug.


I felt as if my heart went tachycardic and almost imploded. My soul seemed as if it pirouetted like Baryshnikov. I’m going to be a tatay soon! I said a silent “thank you, Lord” prayer… and a silent good luck for yours truly.

This is the best Christmas. MERRY CHRISTMAS!

December 24, 2008 Posted by | Positivity | 1 Comment

Zen Husband

Zen and Buddhism (or Zen Buddhism) has been constantly misconstrued and mistaken for a religion ascribing to a certain religious philosophy. Truth be told, a friend who practices Zen gently explained to me that it is a way of life…simply a choice to live life in the most harmonious of ways possible.

My brother, though staunchly Roman Catholic, has somewhat chosen to walk the path to marital harmony in Zen fashion. Being married for 18 years, he has earned the right to be called a master who is well versed in the art of harmonizing marriage with special yet modified attention on the shopping activities of his significant other. I’ve a lot to learn (or unlearn) from him. It goes without saying he has mastered the Jedi-like skill of subliminally saying “Yes, dear!” while actually saying “Naaah, I’ll pass on that, dear”.

His comment on my previous post is too good to pass up as it is post-worthy by itself. Chris Butler, a.k.a. Jagad Guru would be proud. His take:

“Husbands with ten years or more on-the-job training usually enlist the enthusiasm of his wife’s niece, ex-classmate, sis-in-law or relatives to that effect, who has the same mindset or common agenda to burn the aisles at Divi mall or 168. The game plan should be to identify a drop off and pick up point, which would be utilized at a pre-determined time, or at their beck and calling… give or take a few minutes after the much awaited SMS is received… A neophyte hubby, of course is still alien to this technique or still bashful to say the risky lines “see you in a couple of hours honey… text na lang!”

December 15, 2008 Posted by | Buddhism, Chris Butler, Jagad Guru, Jedi, Roman Catholic, shopping, Zen | 2 Comments

Crouching Shopper, Yawning Husband

The shopping crowds in the Divisoria malls were maddening. As early a 8am the shopping arcade of 168 were already filled with Christmas shoppers making a dire attempt to avoid the so-called Christmas rush. People in the aisles were packed like sardines trying to negotiate from one pasilyo to another. 

The women, wives in particular, were all aglow and zoned in on the tasks at hand as they cross out names from lists on hand. Like contortionists, they’d move gracefully from one crowded aisle shelf to the other with relative ease whilst sticking to the game plan of hunting for bargain buys.  They shove each other ever so subtly and simultaneously haggle with Tsinoys and provincial lasses in broken Tagalog. Target, dig, crouch, squat, sort, choose, negotiate, pay, pack, then onto the next stall with deceiving precision…amazing. 

Behind every woman shopper is a bag carrier with bell boy/concierge demeanor. Said bag carrier is usually garbed in short pants and plain shirt as if he was dragged from his bed, roused from his Sunday slumber to step up to the noble task of shop items hauling.  It is interesting to note that these males (usually a husband or a boyfriend) wear the blank why-am-I-here-look on his face as he hooks shopping bags one for each of his10 fingers, two on each shoulder, and one for the neck.  More interesting is the stark observation that these men seen en masse would intermittently yawn every 5 minutes or so. This would go on for about 4 solid hours. Interesting. 

December 15, 2008 Posted by | 168 mall, Divisoria, shopping | 1 Comment

Christmas Rush

I’ll say it straight away. Christmas shopping is an overrated activity. I think it’s a marketing ploy hatched by the evil geniuses of the tycoons who own the various gynormous malls. Who on earth would enjoy…?:
  1. Walking like a cheap battery-operated robot taking hilariously small steps because of all the people you have to elbow and shove for proper positioning in the tight bargain aisles.
  2. Smelling a cacophony of odors (i.e. body odor, and plastic and leather from China).
  3. Carry 5 shopping bags (one for each finger) on both hands, 2 shopping sling bags on both shoulders, and 1 medium-weight shopping bag on your mouth (like a dog playing fetch).
  4. Asking “How much?” or “Tawad naman” a gazillion times.
  5. Waiting for your wife to pick THE ONE right color of fabric from among billions.
  6. Inquiring in broken Tagalog from Chinese nationals who are probably illegal aliens.
  7. Competing for parking space.
  8. Waking up at 5am to get there by 7am.
I expressed my lack of interest when my wife asked me to go with her to Divisoria. I complained and told her about everything from the abovementioned. She then said: “I’ll feed you at Waiying. Siomai, siopao, and Hakaw (Shrimp dimsum)…all you can eat!” Like a golden retriever hypnotized by a wet tennis ball, she made me say yes! Shyet!

But hey, I think it’s worth it. Food at Waiying is worth a salivatory blog. I’ll take pictures.

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December 12, 2008 Posted by | Christmas, dimsum, Divisoria, shopping, Waiying | Leave a comment

How To Talk to Girls: Tips from a 9-year-old boy.

Alec Greven is a 9-year-old kid who knows how to talk to girls… confidently.  Nope, it’s not a typographical error he really is NINE years old.  I can hear the 20 to 30-something women say: “Awww… that’s cute. Now what of it?” 

Thing is, this 4th grader, pint-sized, future heartthrob is already a best-selling author. He wrote the simple-titled book “How to talk to Girls”.  The clincher is, FOX (Yes, the movie company) has just bought from him the rights of his 46-page book/pamphlet.  With that kind of fame and fortune, the girls (and even guys) will surely want to talk to him.  Atta boy!

Fox to adapt 9-year-old’s self-help book (Reuters)
 LOS ANGELES (Hollywood Reporter) – Fox is ready to take advice from a 9-year-old.
The studio has acquired the film rights to “How to Talk to Girls,” a cute 46-page self-help tome written by Alec Greven, a Colorado fourth-grader.

Greven wrote “Girls” as a handwritten, $3 pamphlet sold at his school book fair; he wrote it after he noticed his peers were having some trouble talking to the ladies, though the book is geared for all ages. Among this advice: Comb your hair and don’t wear sweats; control your hyperness and cut down on sugar if necessary; a crush is like a love disease that can drive you mad; it is easy to spot pretty girls because they have big earrings, fancy dresses and all the jewelry but are like cars that need a lot of oil.

Soon enough Harper Collins picked up the book, which came out in November and quickly became a hit. But initially, Fox, which is like Harper Collins is owned by News Corp ., and its book scouts passed on the title. But when the book hit the town last week, garnering heavy interest from multiple parties, Fox stepped back in and took the book off the table. The deal was in the low-to-mid six figures .

No writers or producers are attached yet.

December 10, 2008 Posted by | Positivity | 1 Comment

Making Fun of Me

FACT: My wife is an elegantly beautiful lady gifted with gracefully impeccable yet modest class about her.

FACT: I am a handsome gentleman who is as classy as my wife.

FICTION: All my factual statements of self promotion and aggrandizement are always true and reliable.

Okay, you get the picture. I just thought I could be eloquent about circumventing the truth and/or separating fact from fiction. After 10 great months of marital bliss (i.e. honeymoon euphoria), I still get interesting remarks and nonverbal cues from friends and relations. Here are some of them:
  1. Ang ganda naman ng misis mo! Ano ginawa mo?” (Your wife is so gorgeous! What did you do?)
  2. An old female family friend looks at my wife and says: “Ang pretty mo.”. She looks at me, says nothing and just smiles. Then she turns to my wife again and says: “Ang pretty mo talaga!“.
  3. Nabili mo na ba siya ng helmet?” (Have you already bought her a helmet?)
  4. Artistahin ang beauty niya!” (She looks like a moviestar!). The friend then looks at me and says: “Artistahin ka din…” (You look like a moviestar, too.) then bursts into boisterous laughter. I’m surmising she must have meant comic actor.
  5. Totoo pala talagang opposites attract.” (It’s true. Opposites attract). I have no comment to that.
  6. The best I’ve heard so far: “Huwag kayo magsisimba kapag si healing priest Fr. Suarez ang pari, baka luminaw na mga mata ng misis mo.” (Don’t hear mass if Fr. Suarez, the healing priest is the celebrant. Your wife’s eyes might get healed.)
    Honestly, I don’t get offended. I think it’s downright hilarious how people jab you in the gut and try to make good fun of you. At the back of my mind I hear them praising me and feeling jealous for the wonderful fortune and love that has befallen me. My wife is a wonderful person and I’m grateful for this heaven-sent life (I’m also playing mushy air violin as i write).

    I hope and pray our children will get her stunning good looks and intelligence…and I hope they inherit my oozing sex appeal and irresistible charm. No objections please or I’ll destroy your reputation on my next post. Peace.

    December 9, 2008 Posted by | Fr. Suarez, my beautiful wife | 1 Comment